In the whirlwind of modern life, it’s easy to overlook the quiet, everyday moments that shape a child’s future. Yet, science and experience agree: the most powerful influence on a young child’s learning, development, and behaviour is the connection they share with their carers* – their parents, family & educators.

At Kinda-Mindi we have been recently started to explore a strategy called “Connection Time”, where educators and children come together regularly throughout the day to connect through a hug or a hi-5 (child choice). We have started to notice children seeking these connections more often, settling into their day faster and a greater sense of calm amongst both children & educators. Maybe we ALL need a little more connection!! Why is this important?

 Learning Begins with Love

From the moment a child is born, their brain begins a rapid process of growth and wiring. This development is deeply influenced by the emotional environment around them. When carers engage warmly and consistently with their child—through eye contact, conversation, play, and affection—they’re not just bonding. They’re building the foundation for learning.

• Language development thrives when parents talk, read, and sing to their children.
• Cognitive skills grow through interactive play, problem-solving, and exploration.
• Curiosity and motivation are nurtured when children feel safe and supported.

Emotional and Social Development

Children learn how to understand and manage emotions by watching and interacting with their caregivers. A strong carer-child connection helps children develop:

• Secure attachment, which leads to confidence and resilience.
• Empathy and social skills, as they learn to interpret feelings and respond appropriately.
• Self-regulation, the ability to manage impulses and cope with stress.
• These skills are not just “nice to have”—they’re essential for success in school and life.

Behaviour: Connection Before Correction

Behavioral challenges in young children are often signals of unmet emotional needs. When carers prioritize connection, they create an environment where positive behavior can flourish.

• Children who feel understood and valued are more cooperative and less likely to act out.
• Consistent, loving boundaries help children feel secure and learn self-discipline.
• Connection fosters trust, making discipline more about guidance and less punitive.

Everyday Ways to Build Connection at Home

You don’t need fancy tools or endless hours to connect meaningfully with your child. Here are simple, powerful ways to strengthen connection & support regulation:

• Be present: Put down your phones & devices and tune in during playtime or meals (AI is never a good meal companion)
• Listen actively: Show interest in their thoughts, even if you’re fed up hearing about dinosaurs again 😉
• Create rituals: Bedtime snuggles & stories, weekend walks, silly dances, morning breaky together, laughing & singing together- these all build shared joy & sense of belonging
• Validate feelings: Let your child know their emotions are seen and accepted.

In short, connection isn’t just a warm fuzzy feeling—it’s a powerful tool for shaping a child’s future. Whether you’re a parent, grandparent, or caregiver, remember: every moment of connection counts. In the eyes of a child, your presence is the most valuable gift you can give.